Posts Tagged ‘Girl’

Men and Women – A comparison with Bluetooth and Wifi

December 30, 2011

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Married or not… you should read this…… !!

October 28, 2011

Marriage.

“When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed – dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband….

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.

So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

Clothing : Guys vs. Girls

May 8, 2011

Clothing : Boys vs. Girls

How Cameras Are Used ??

February 21, 2011

 

Magical frog ….

January 12, 2011

A Woman was out golfing one day when she hit the ball into the woods.

She went into the woods to look for it and found a frog in a trap.

The frog said to her, “If you release me from this trap, I will grant you three wishes.”

The woman freed the frog, and the frog said, “Thank you,but I failed to mention that there was a condition to your wishes. Whatever you wish for, your husband will get times ten!”

The woman said, “That’s okay.” For her first wish, she wanted to be the most beautiful woman in the world.

The frog warned her, “You do realize that this wish will also make Your husband the most handsome man in the world, an Adonis whom women will flock to. ”

The woman replied, “That’s okay, because I will be the most beautiful Woman and he will have eyes only for me.” So, -she’s the most beautiful woman in the world!

For her second wish, she wanted to be the richest woman in the world.

The frog said, “That will make your husband the richest man in the world and he will be ten times richer than you.” The woman said,

“That’s okay, because what’s mine is his and what’s his is mine.”

So, -she’s the richest woman in the world!

The frog then inquired about her third wish, and she answered, “I’d like a mild heart attack.”

Moral of the story: Women are clever. Don’t mess with them.

Attention female readers: This is the end of the story for you. Stop here and continue feeling good.

Male readers: Please scroll down.

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The man had a heart attack ten times milder than his wife!!!

Moral of the story: Women are really dumb but think they’re really smart.

Let them continue to think that way and just enjoy the show

PS: If you are a woman and are still reading this; it only goes to show that women never listen!

RECRUITMENT OF GAL FRIEND !

September 14, 2010

Ad for Recruitment of Girl Friend …

Dear Friends,

Due to recession, I left my Girlfriend (as part of my cost cutting
efforts). I need new one now, so pass on this information to your
female friends…

Applications are invited for the following post. The package and
incentives are mentioned below:

Designation: Junior girl friend (trainee)

Experience: Must have ditched at least 2 guys (Fresher with excellent
credentials will be considered)

Other requirement: Should have the Potential to do street bargaining
and fight if required.

Age: 18-23 (if the individual is too good looking but not in the age
group can also apply, special consideration will be undertaken for
them)
Height, weight, complexions no bar, but is subjective.

Perks and incentives:

Total gross (Monthly) :
• 2 gifts worth not exceeding Rs. 1000 /-(any precious metals, stones)
• Bike rides each duration 1 hour
• Trips to National Highways
• 5 Trips to Hanuman Mandir / SiddhivinayakTemple
• Kulfis / Chocó bars at a regular gap of 3 days
• Daily Provision of Samosa/Bread Pakoda/Bhel worth Rs. 10 /-
• 2 movies per month (Except on weekends)
• Visits to Shopping Malls and BARISTA every weekend (At your own expense)

A Pair of Jeans or T-shirts according to demand will be gifted,
subject to finance availability and to the size available with the
shopkeeper.

Net Deductions (Monthly): Affair Fund and Un-professional taxes will
be informed on joining.
The probation period is 6 months, after which confirmation (with
Promotion to fulltime Girlfriend)

Please NOTE:
1. Only females.
2. Girls who left in the last 2 months need not apply.
3. Ex-girlfriends will be eligible only if they agree to the above
mentioned conditions.

There is more:
For girls who are not eligible, can take advantage of the referral
program by referring their friends, colleagues etc.
Candle light/Tube light dinner will be given on every referral, even
if candidate is not selected.
Search never ends!!

Interested candidates can send their resume with

Subject: Name/fresher-exp/age.
Photo must be attached in the email

Note: Applications without photo will be rejected.

ABC to What do Women really want – Lesson to be remembered!!

February 16, 2010

This is quite interesting. ….
(To men) Please take time to ponder…..
(To women) Just enjoy the story……

Young King Arthur was ambushed and imprisoned by the monarch of a neighboring kingdom..
The monarch could have killed him but was moved by Arthur’s youth and ideals. So, the monarch offered him his freedom, as long as he could answer a very difficult question. Arthur would have a year to figure out the answer and, if after a year, he still had no answer, he would be put to death.

The question was: What do women really want?

Such a question would perplex even the most knowledgeable man. And to young Arthur, it seemed an impossible query. But, since it was better than death, he accepted the monarch’s proposition to have an answer by year’s end.

He returned to his kingdom and began to poll everyone: the princess, the priests, the wise men, and even the court jester. He spoke with everyone, but no one could give him a satisfactory answer.

Many people advised him to consult the old witch, for only she would have the answer. But the price would be high as the witch was famous throughout the kingdom for the exorbitant prices she charged.

The last day of the year arrived and Arthur had no choice but to talk to the witch. She agreed to answer the question, but first he would have to agree to her price.

The old witch wanted to marry Sir Lancelot, the most noble of the Knights of the Round Table, and Arthur’s closest friend! Young Arthur was horrified. She was hunch-backed and hideous, had only one tooth, smelled like sewage, made obscene noises, etc.

He had never encountered such a repugnant creature in all his life.. He refused to force his friend to marry he and endure such a terrible burden.

But Lancelot, having learnt of the proposal, spoke with Arthur. He said nothing was too big of a sacrifice compared to Arthur’s life. And the reservation of the Round Table. Hence, a wedding was proclaimed and the witch answered.

Arthur’s question thus: ‘What a woman really wants?’
She said, ‘A woman wants to be in charge of her own life.’

Everyone in the kingdom instantly knew that the witch had uttered a great truth, and that Arthur’s life would be spared. And so it was. The neighboring monarch granted Arthur his freedom. And Lancelot and the witch had a wonderful wedding.

The honeymoon hour approached and, Lancelot, steeling himself for a horrific experience, entered the bedroom. But, what a sight awaited him. The most beautiful woman he had ever seen was sitting by the bed.

The astounded Lancelot asked what had happened. The beauty replied that since he had been so kind to her when she appeared as witch, she would henceforth become her horrible and deformed self only half the time, and be the beautiful maiden the other half.

‘Which would you prefer?’ She asked him. ‘Beautiful during the day …. or at night?’
Lancelot pondered the predicament.
During the day he could have a beautiful woman to show off to his friends,
but at night, in the privacy of his castle, an old witch!
Or,
Would he prefer having a hideous witch during the day?
But by night a beautiful woman for him to enjoy wondrous moments with?

(If you are a man reading this…) What would YOUR choice be?
(If you are a woman reading this…) What would YOUR MAN’S choice be?
And Lancelot’s choice is given below…
BUT… please make YOUR choice first before you scroll down below… OKAY?

 

Knowing the answer the witch gave to Arthur for his question,
Sir Lancelot said that he would allow HER to make the choice herself.
Upon hearing this, she announce that she would be beautiful all the time..
Because, he had respected her enough to let her be in charge of her own life.
Now… what is the moral to this story?

The moral is…

1) There is a ‘witch’ in every woman, no matter how beautiful she is !
2) If you don’t let a woman have her own way, things are going to get ugly !

So, be careful how you treat a woman and always remember: 
IT IS EITHER ‘ HER WAY ‘ OR IT IS ‘ NO WAY ‘ !!

Equations: its the best i have read in a long time..:))

February 15, 2010

Human = eat + sleep + work + enjoy
Donkey = eat + sleep

Therefore:
Human = Donkey + Work + enjoy

Therefore:
Human – enjoy = Donkey + Work

In other words,
A Human that doesn’t know how to enjoy = Donkey that works.

** Equation 2 **

Man = eat + sleep + earn money
Donkey = eat + sleep

Therefore:
Man = Donkey + earn money

Therefore:
Man – earn money = Donkey

In other words
Man who doesn’t earn money = Donkey

** Equation 3 **

Woman= eat + sleep + spend
Donkey = eat + sleep

Therefore:
Woman = Donkey + spend
Woman – spend = Donkey

In other words,
Woman who doesn’t spend = Donkey

To Conclude: From Equation 2 and Equation 3

Man who doesn’t earn money = Woman who doesn’t spend

So Man earns money not to let woman become a donkey!
And a woman spends not to let the man become a donkey!

So, We have: Man + Woman = Donkey + earn money + Donkey + Spend money

Therefore from postulates 1 and 2, we can conclude Man + Woman = 2 Donkeys that live happily together!

A Phone Pal !!

February 10, 2010

A nice story to read if you have time do read this….

PART 1

It was just another normal day when I woke up at 10:00 AM and started brushing while enjoying the greenery of the Colony, from my room’s window.

Suddenly I got a missed call from an unknown number… After brushing, I dialed the number to check who the person was.
To my surprise I heard a sweet female voice on the phone and she told that it’s a wrong dial. I said ok and hung up.

As we were a group of jobless fresh MCA graduates, our (mine and my friends) concentration was mostly on Career Chronicle and girls:)…
Being mischievous and eager to make a female friend who’s neither my classmate nor my relative, I gave it a try to give her continuous missed calls… at that time I wasn’t aware of the consequences.

After a couple of days, I got a call from her number. With trmbling hands, I pressed the OK button of my phone and I heard a new voice (it’s not SHE with whom I talked earler) and that girl was shouting at me…
I kept quiet for a moment. Later before cutting the call she said “why do you guys give missed calls? Don’t you have guts to talk to a girl? Anyway, don’t give me missed calls after 9 PM as our parents will be home..”. I was puzzled with her words… is she hinting something? Does she want to talk to me? She is not the girl with whom I talked before… who is this new character?
I chose to wait and see because her words were not harsh… at the same time she wasn’t so polite… I thought she might be a tomboy kinda girl and sister of HER.

On the next day I called up her and again the tomboy came online. She introduced herself as “Nidhi”. According to her words she stays in Vizag and she was a B.Sc. I year student.
When I asked about HER, she said SHE is her sister named “Anu”. Both of them were studying in same college.

From that day, my schedule was adjusted to have long phone calls with Nidhi. I starting waking up at 8 AM 🙂 so that we can talk till she starts for college.
After a week, Nidhi introduced one guy called “Raja” on phone and said he’s her relative cum boyfriend. I inquired whether her sister had any such friends… then she said SHE doesn’t have any.
Nidhi sensed my interest towards her sister and started teasing me when I raise HER topic.

Days were simply passing like that and oneday when I called Nidhi, Anu answered the call and told that Nidhi was not at home. I thanked God for giving such an opportunity to talk to Anu.
Then Anu told me about the relationship between Nidhi and Raja and asked me not to call Nidhi so often. When I asked for the reason, she said Raja is not so comfortable when Nidhi talks to other boys.
I promised her that I wouldn’t call Nidhi regularly and wished Anu goodbye and hung up…

That is where the story took its twist…

PART 2

After the phone call, I didn’t talk to them for 10 days… of course I
felt bad for not talking to them.

10 days later…. October 24th, 2004.

My friends became frustrated seeing me in such a bad mood and to relieve
me from that mood, they took me to a movie.
It’s the second show, and we enjoyed the movie a lot… throughout the
movie, whenever I see the heroine (I am sorry I didn’t tell the movie
name… it’s “Anand” and the heroine is as you know “Kamalini Mukherji”)
I wished Anu look like the heroine.

I didn’t talk to both Anu and Nidhi for these 10 days… as I was
walking along with my friends towards my room after the movie, I got an
SMS.
It’s from Anu wishing me good night. In the same SMS she apologized me
for the harsh tone in our previous call. I sent a reply saying “it’s ok
and I should have been cautious while talking to girls…”
That’s a bull-eye :). My sentimental message had hit her strong.
Immediately I got a call from Anu and she tried to explain how bad she
felt for being harsh on me 🙂 (actually I didn’t feel her words harsh at
that time!!!).
I strongly felt that she started thinking of me and at such an odd time
she is trying to apologize… I told myself that it’s the twist. Earlier
she was reluctant to let me to talk to her sister. But now, she herself
is interested in me and my feelings. I thought that finally I could get
someone who really thinks of me and cares about my feelings.

My life has come back into action 🙂

After that we (I and Anu) became good friends and used to talk so often.
I always tried to make her feel that she is something special to me.

It’s December 26th, 2004… As it is weekend, I went to my home town and
was busy watching TV.
While surfing through channels, I saw the news about Tsunami… the
first and foremost thing came into my mind is “Anu”… she stays in
Vizag which is on seashore…
Being much worried about her I tried to call her.. but the network
traffic did not allow my call to connect her mobile. So I sent an SMS to
her to check how she is and she instantly replied that she is safe…

On the next day, I talked to her regarding Tsunami and she explained how
their area was affected. She was moved by my concern and care.

After 4 more days, we both exchanged new year wishes and I sensed that
year 2005 is going to be the most memorable year in my life.

As someone said that friendship is the base of love, I started to love
Anu and was waiting for time of proposal.
Her sister, Nidhi came to know about my feelings and she used to tease
me by calling “baava” (means brother-in-law).

On 2nd Jan 2005, while talking to Nidhi, I said that I love her sister
Anu. But the destiny has its own plot…
As Nidhi had to go to attend some guest, she handed-over the phone to
Anu. Anu heard the words “I love Anu” silently and she simply hung up.

I was in an impression that I talked to Nidhi only and because of the
signal, the call had been dropped. I tried to call them again but all my
calls were unanswered.

I thought it’s the miserable end of story which started in October 2004
😦 and I myself destroyed our friendship.

Part 3

After that incident, my senses went numb for couple of days. I didn’t go out of my room even for an evening tea which we usually used to have in the road side café.

On 4th Jan 2005, I sent a SMS saying good morning to Anu. Though I sent that message with no hope, there was a thin ray of hope in my heart.
God has answered all my prayers and I got a reply after an hour. Without wasting a moment I called Anu and her voice is so normal. she asked why I wasn’t in touch with her.
I was surprised by that question. I was expecting a good bashing from her. I replied that I was not feeling well and changed the topic.

2 days later on 6th Jan 2005, I got an interview call from a company in which I appeared for an interview in September 2004 but was not selected.
They told me that they have openings for freshers and asked me to come to their office for a formal round of interview.
I didn’t tell her about the interview because if I lose the interview, I didn’t want to be a loser in her view.

It is 7th Jan 2005, I cleared the interview and got a job with designation “Junior Software Engineer”. The reporting date was 17th Jan 2005 which is 10 days after the interview date.
After the interview I told her about the interview and the job I got. She wished me all the best and the sound in her voice has boosted my happiness.

I went to a nearby internet café to send emails to all classmates and friends to inform about my job.
Then at 6:30 PM Anu called me and asked a straight question “I thought you are a decent and straight mannered guy. but I never expected you to be a coward who tells about his love to everybody except the girl whom he loves. Why did you do this?”. I did not have a word to answer.
I kept dumb for a moment. Then she said “you idiot, it was me who heard your words ‘I love Anu’ on phone. I am not sure if it is love or attraction. But I can’t stop myself saying these words – I LOVE YOU TOO. but let us first finalize whether it is love or sheer attraction.”

I felt like heaven by hearing her words “I LOVE YOU” but at the same time I was anxious about her second sentence to check if this is love or attraction. I asked her how we can decide.
She said “let us not be in touch for 4 months. If you still have same feeling, then it is true love. we will be together forever. If it is just attraction, we will be distracted from each of us during these 4 months”.

With those words my BP has shot up to its maximum but I held my nerve. I suppressed all my irritation and tried to be so soft. I said “look baby. it is not movie where the hero and heroine part before interval and get together in the climax. Put your cinematic thoughts aside and tell me whether do you love me or not. Time will decide whether it is so called True Love or not”.

She confirmed her love towards me and I sincerely thanked God for such a wonderful gift to me.

From that day we were happily lost in Love and days are passing simply like that.
Day by day, the desire to see her was building in me. and finally I told her about my desire. She took a break and told that she is not so pretty and asked about my looks.
I said I am an average looking guy with medium built and fair complexion. Then she asked for my photograph.
It took me a complete day to choose my best looking photograph from my archives and sent it to her friend’s address which was given by her. After posting the photograph, I called her and asked to send her photo.

After a couple of days, Anu told that her friend has received the parcel and Anu was going to see the photo on the same day. I said ok and got lost in my work.

From that day I did not get any call from Anu for 4 days. and when I try to reach her number it’s saying the number is temporarily out of service.
I decided that she did not like my photo and she changed her number to avoid me forever:(:(

Part 4

There is no better teacher than life and there is no better doctor than time.
I madly tried to contact Anu for 3 more days. After that I have given up and started to hate my luck.

I think I am not just average looking guy… I am far better than many of guys that I see. I felt it’s her bad luck that she has missed a good and decent guy like me!!

When you run behind your shadow, remember that you are moving away from the light. When you start leading your shadow, it’s your journey towards light.

I started my journey towards light by trying to forget the bitter experience. I wanted to teach Anu a lesson which she could never forget. What I didn’t know at that time is I am not moving towards light, the light called Anu was moving towards me :).

It’s the day on which I cursed myself a million times for not being patient… it is Feb 9th 2005.

Our front office executive came to my cubicle and had given an envelope to me.

I thought it is just a promotional mail that my bank sends periodically… but when I saw the envelope, the From address is blank and To address was written by hand.

With a big question mark on face, I put the envelope against some light to see the contents. There was a postcard which is wrapped by some paper in the envelope. I could see some writing on the paper and thought it is a letter. My colleague Chari came to me and threw a weird look at me.

Then I told him about the Photo incident and this envelope. He asked me to open the envelope and I did so.

I unwrapped the letter from the inlay card. To my surprise, it is not a card… it is a postcard sized photograph. When I turned it over, I could see an angel standing in the middle of a sunflower field.

I screamed “yes… she is Anu” and all my cubicle-mates stared at me with a strange expression on their faces..

Being excited and couldn’t control the excitement, I took the envelope, letter, and that photograph and ran to Fire Exit of our building (Cyber Gateway).

I saw the photograph for almost 20 minutes and then suddenly I recollected about the letter. I unfolded the letter and the forewords were “Do you like my photo? Then enough… now read the message”.

In that letter she explained how she liked my photograph and how decent I look ;). She wrote that her mobile would not be recharged till 09-Feb-2005 because she was going to her native place which is a remote village in agency area. When I check the date of the letter posted… she posted the letter exactly on the next day of our last conversation and left to her native place. Thanks to Indian Postal Service, because of whom the letter took 10 days to reach Hyderabad from Vizag.

I felt really bad for not being patient and not to have trust in her. I immediately tried to call her… it was connected and Anu came online.

I apologized her for not understanding her situation. And she’s such a kind hearted to understand my fear and feelings. She said even if she was in my position, she would have thought like that.

When I asked about the sudden visit to her native place, she said her grandmother fell ill and they had to go all of a sudden. Also she said her grandma is fine now.

Then I explained how excited I was when I saw her photo and how beautiful she is. I could feel the shyness in her voice hearing my words. 🙂

For the valentine’s day, I bought a beautiful gift and sent to her friend’s address as directed by her.

If everything goes smooth in life, people never remember God. Finally God wants to prove his existence.

Suddenly on one day (it is Feb 19th 2005) I got an SMS from Anu saying “YOU CHEAT… DON’T PLAY WITH PEOPLE’S EMOTIONS. I DON’T WANT TO SEE YOU AGAIN IN MY LIFE. GOOD BYE”

I didn’t believe what I was seeing on my mobile… I was not sure whether it is a dream or reality…

Part 5

From Anu’s perspective
I went to my native place for 10 days as my grandma felt ill… during this time, I really missed my love. I didn’t talk to Nani (his name is changed to maintain privacy 😉 ) for 10 long days 😦
I wouldn’t have felt the pain with such intensity if I don’t see his pic. But after seeing his photo I could not stay without talking to him.
When I saw his picture for the first time, I felt that his fellow doesn’t know how to describe himself 😛 he looks much better. I especially like his innocent looks… the only thing I didn’t like was his serious expressions in the photo… doesn’t this guy know how to pose for a picture? Anyway I’ve given the sealed envelope to Jyothi to post that to his mailing address.
Feb 9th, 2005
Finally my grandma has recovered her health and I came back to Vizag. By this time he would have received my letter and photo. I recharged my mobile and was waiting for his call.
At 11 AM, I got his call. I could sense some anxiety in his voice… for a moment I felt that something is wrong with him. The first word he said was “I am extremely sorry for misunderstanding you and your love towards me”. I didn’t understand what he was saying.
When I asked him to know what has happened, the told that he was trying to reach me for past 10 days and he thought I changed my number after seeing his photo.
Don’t know why boys are always insecure about their love… if they could love a girl sincerely, then why can’t a girl love a guy with same (sometimes even with more) sincerity?? I told him that I can never imagine anybody in his place and asked him not to worry. He said that he received the envelope just before that morning and that’s why he tried to call me.
Then he described his feelings when he saw my photo. Gosh… there is some magic in his voice… I was on cloud 9 when he says how beautiful I look :).
Time was simply passing like that and it’s the time for my annual exams… then came the shock…
It’s Vinay, my distant relative came to visit my family and he came to know about my love story through my foolish sister Nidhi.
What has shocked me the most is, this Vinay was the starting point of my love story with Nani. They both are friends and Vinay gave a missed call to Nani from my mobile when he came to our home in October 2004.
Vinay told that Nani is already engaged to his maternal uncle’s daughter and she lives at Nani’s home in his home town. That’s why Nani goes his home town every week.
And Vinay claimed that Nani told about our relationship and told that it’s just a popcorn love.
Those words boiled my blood and I thought of calling Nani and give him a strong retort. But I don’t want to talk to that characterless guy who has broken my heart with his false love.
So, I sent a SMS saying I don’t want to see his face again in my life.
After sending that SMS, I got numerous calls from him. What this guy is trying to do? Does he want to make me fool again? I don’t want to talk to him so I cut all of his calls and switched off my mobile.
I hate myself for trusting a cheat and his words. If God really exists, he will definitely teach Nani a strong lesson.
I don’t have other option than washing the stains of my foolish act of my life and keep going with my studies.
……
……

After seeing the message I tried to call Anu many times… but she didn’t answer the calls and finally she switched off her mobile.
I didn’t understand the reason behind that message and was completely clueless.
I prayed to God for giving me one more opportunity to prove myself innocent. I could not bear the name CHEAT.
I decided to write a letter to Anu and post it to her friend Jyothi’s address (postal mail was the only medium between us other than phone).
I wrote a letter to give me the reason for calling me a cheat and asked if I have done any mistake…
Before posting the letter, I tried to call Anu and luckily the call was connected.
Nidhi answered the call and had told that Anu was not at home… she asked me why I’ve played such games with Anu’s emotions… I said I didn’t understand her words and asked to give me the reason for such blames. Then she told about Vinay. I exclaimed how did they know Vinay and Nidhi told that he is a distant relative to them.
Vinay, one of my best friends is relative of Anu!!! While I was in the shock, suddenly Anu snatched the phone from Nidhi and started scolding me. I waited for a couple of minutes and I asked Anu to check with Vinay about my character and my commitment towards her.
Then Anu sarcastically said “Sir, we came to know about your great personality and your so-called commitment from Vinay only. If you need just popcorn kind of relationship, why do you name it as Love and why do you play with people’s emotions?”. Her words sounded like bullets from an AK-47 rifle and I asked if I behaved wrongly at any time of this course… she said no.
I asked her to tell me what Vinay has told them… then she asked if I have any cousin who stays at my home… I said yes. But I didn’t understand the link between my cousin’s stay at my home and my love with Anu.
Anu asked me about my last meet/conversation with her. I said I met her during my last visit to my hometown which was just a week ago. I also said that it’s just a casual meet and there is no specific purpose.
She started to cry and scold me for hiding that matter… I tried to console her with my words but failed…
After a moment she asked if I was engaged with my cousin…
I couldn’t control my laughter and it took 5 minutes to come down. Then I asked her if she herself got the doubt or Vinay told about my engagement with her…
Anu said Vinay told about my cousin and my engagement with her. I said “you fool, my cousin is studying 7th class. And she stays with my mother because there is no school in their village. That guy Vinay just knows that there is a girl who is my maternal uncle’s daughter and stays at my home. He doesn’t know her age. How can you think that I will marry such kid???”.
Anu asked me if I told Vinay that it’s just a time pass love. Without replying I asked her about the relationship between her and Vinay. She told that he is her paternal aunt’s son. It made clear that Vinay wanted to wipe me off from Anu’s life. As they both are relatives and Vinay has every chance to marry Anu, he wanted to separate both of us by projecting me as bad.
He didn’t anticipate that Anu would talk to me and I explain about my cousin. I explained the same to Anu that Vinay is trying to separate both of us by doing all this.
At first Anu didn’t believe this… upon asking her if she wants to talk me and Vinay in conference mode, she said it’s not necessary and she completely agreed with me.
On that day I felt bad that the person whom I trusted the most and believed as best friend, had backstabbed me for a girl. At that moment, I decided to not to see his face again in my life.
Anyway, I did not lose Anu by his cheap tricks. Anu told me that she would teach him a lesson.
The differences came to an end but the story still has miles to go 🙂
After the series of misunderstandings I thought of meeting Anu so that all our doubts will go off and our bond will become more strong. I told Anu the same and asked if I could go Vizag to meet her. She said that they have relatives in Hyderabad and they would be coming Hyderabad for summer vacation after her annual exams. I felt really happy hearing that she would come to Hyderabad and was counting down the days.
Part 6

Finally it’s the day 24th May 2005 
She said that they were coming by Visakha Express and the coach number 
was S8. 
As I was too excited to see her, I went to Secunderabad station before 
the train’s arrival. For the first time in my life, seconds seemed to be 
minutes and minutes seemed to be hours. 

Finally I saw the train coming on to platform number 5 and I ran towards 
S8. From behind a pole, I was watching the passengers alighting the 
train. I saw a family consisting of a father and two daughters where one 
of the girls staring at me… I didn’t pay much attention to them and 
was searching for Anu. 
Finally I got a doubt if those two girls are Anu and Nidhi!! 
I picked up my mobile and dialed Anu’s number. My guess was correct… 
the mobile rang just in front of me with one of those two girls (the 
second girl was the one who stared at me). That girl was facing her back 
to me and I could not see her face properly. 


She picked up the call and said hello. Then I said “hey green dress, 
turnaround… your love is waiting behind you”. By hearing those words 
she turned back and man… she looks absolutely beautiful. 
I could see her sweet smile which I used to hear for past 7 months on 
phone. She looks gorgeous in that green color salwar kameez. 
Her skin tone is almost similar to milk cream and her eyes are in 
complete contrast to her complexion. And the morning wind is playing 
with her curly hair. When she turns towards me, I was speechless. I 
thanked God again for this wonderful gift of my life. 

She might be feeling little discomfort with my gazes :)… she then 
adjusted her hair and said with a low tone “enough dear… now we’ve to 
go our relatives’ home. Let’s meet later. Bye for now” 

With those words I came back into this world and was following her 
silently. Her sister is also looking good but she looks older than her 
elder sister :). 

They were waiting for the city bus and her relatives were accompanying 
them. I was standing a bit far from them and looking at my angel. 
Then came the disturber… a vegetables vendor came to me and asked if 
the bus in front of me goes to Begumpet or not. I said that it would. 
Then he asked me to help him lift the vegetables basket and I had no 
choice. Anu and Nidhi burst into laughter seeing my face… as I didn’t 
want to be disturbed again, after helping the vendor I changed my 
location to next bus shelter. 

Their bus had come and they got into bus. As it goes to Krishna Nagar 
and I’ve to get down at Ameerpet, I too boarded the bus. I got a seat 
exactly behind Anu’s seat and her father sat beside me…!! 
I was trying to be very decent in the presence of their father and made 
no signs to Anu. As the bus moves, the wind swayed her hair gently and I 
could smell the fragrance of her hair. I bet she must have washed her 
hair with Rejoice shampoo (it was her favorite :)) before boarding the 
train. 
These bus drivers drive fast when we need it really slow and when we are 
in urgency they drive like as if they are riding a bullock cart. We 
reached Ameerpet in just 20 minutes from Sec’bad and I had to get down. 
I got down the bus and sent her an SMS saying I’ll be in dayshift on 
that day. She replied saying OK. 
I got a call from her @ 11 AM and said she would like to meet me on the 
next day. I said I’d make my shift to be shifted to night and meet her. 
We both had decided to meet at Durgam Cheruvu on the next day at exactly 
4:30 PM. 

On the next day 25th May, 2005. 
I was waiting for them at Krishna Nagar bus stop from 4:30 PM. I waited 
till 5 PM but they did not turn up. 
I decided to wait till 5:15 PM and even then if don’t turn up, I would 
leave the place and go back to my room. Then she came along with her 
sister and her cousin Priya. 
We four had engaged an auto rickshaw to Durgam Cheruvu and reached 
Durgam Cheruvu by 5:40 PM. 
Priya said that she and Nidhi will roam around Hitec city and asked me 
and Anu to spend time alone. I thanked her and took Anu into the park at 
Durgam Cheruvu. 

I was not aware of the consequences of our meet and the next twist of our love.

Part 7

It was 25th May, 2005 

I met Nani at Durgam Cheruvu. He is such a nice guy with who cares much 
about me and my feelings. 
He took my hand and guided me to the park on the bank of that lake. I 
could see many couples sitting there… and I am sure most of them were 
lovebirds :). 

We had a tough time finding an empty bench in that park and finally Nani 
saw a bench which is almost invisible to outer world. He said that we 
would sit on that bench… but I hesitated to go there as I kept 
remembering Priya’s words that guys would take advantage of being 
invisible to others… I said “Nani, why can’t we sit here in the lawn? 
Do we really need to sit on a bench to talk?”. Poor guy.. without a 
word, he sat on the grass in the lawn and I did the same. 
We kept quiet for a moment and I was waiting for him to break the ice. 
When I looked at him, he was staring at me. I could see a lot of love 
towards me in his eyes. I smiled at him and asked about his office. 
He asked to keep office, studies, parents, and the world away because 
it’s the moment of his life where he met me for the first time. 

He complemented that I look more beautiful than I looked in the 
photograph. I blushed and said thanks :). 
I guess most of the guys are possessive at their women. Earlier I didn’t 
know the reason behind asking me to sit on the hidden bench. But after a 
while I strongly felt like running towards that bench along with Nani. 
A group of boys (probably they were some engineering college guys) was 
roaming around the park and passing some bad comments towards the 
couples they encounter. Being offended by their comments, all the 
couples sitting on the lawn were leaving the place. Before they come to 
our place, I told Nani that we would go to the bench which the bad boys 
could not see. 
We went there and spent some time… all the time Nani was fascinated by 
my looks and my skin tone. He asked about the soap I use… when I asked 
why, he told that he would use the same to get the same skin tone I have 
:). At that moment, he looked like a kid to me. I took his arm and 
gently pressed it. That time I determined to not to lose this nice guy 
at any cost. 

After our first meet, we met for 4 more times in Hyderabad. Twice at his 
office in Hitec city and two more times at Durgam Cheruvu. 

June 7th, 2005 
It’s just one day before the day on which we had to go back to Vizag. I 
was not able to digest the fact that I had to leave Nani. On the 
previous day we met at Jubilee Hills Peddamma Temple and he gave me a 
sweet gift along with a beautiful greeting card. I was all tears while 
waving him good bye 😦 

June 8th, 2005 
We were all set to start to Secunderabad. Nidhi, Priya, and myself 
started to the railway station before the stipulated time to check the 
reservation status of our berths. 
My Dad and all my relatives will reach by the scheduled time. While we 
were in the bus, I got a call from Nani and he wished me a very happy 
journey. 

We reached station by 2:30 PM and to my surprise, Nani was waiting for 
us at the reservation counter. I jumped in joy by seeing him. He came to 
me with a naughty smile and winked at me. 
Priya and Nidhi went to the machine to check the status of our 
reservation and we sat on a bench. We talked about an hour and finally 
they both came with some biscuits and water bottle. 

My dad and relatives reached the station by 4 PM. Nidhi and Priya went 
out to receive them and we both were in Train compartment. After a 
while, Priya called me and told that they were approaching the 
compartment. 
We both exchanged the best wishes and he left the compartment with a 
heavy heart… he stayed till the train starts from the platform and we 
parted with tears in eyes. 

We reached Vizag by next morning and I called him and acknowledged our 
safe journey. 

After our meet, our bond had become much stronger. After a couple of 
months, he told that he wanted to see me again 🙂 

Generally my parents would go to our native place on every month-end to 
visit my grandparents. 
So I thought that it would be the best time for us to meet . I took my 
friends’ help to arrange the accommodation for him and invited him to 
Vizag. 
He came to Vizag twice and we both spent good time visiting all places 
in and around Vizag. One of my friends had arranged accommodation for 
him. 

It was his third visit to Vizag. It was 29th Sep, 2005. 
We didn’t know that it would be our last meet.

Part 8

We both went to Rishikonda by my friend’s bike. There we both sat on a 
stone and were looking at the beauty of the sea. There were many people 
who were there for site seeing. 
Suddenly I could feel that somebody from the nearest group was watching 
both of us. I told the same to Nani and we left the place. 

That was the day on which the luck started to play with our love and 
lives. 

After our third meet at Vizag, I came back to Hyderabad and for two days I was pretty busy with my official work. During those 2 days, I had very short conversations with Anu and she sounded little disturbed with my response. 

Finally we’ve accomplished the successful release of our project and I got some leisure. I called up Anu and I could hear a guy’s voice over the phone. I wondered if I had dialed wrong number. I rechecked the number and tried again. To my surprise the same guy has answered the call. He told it is wrong number and when I asked about Anu, he turned to be harsh at his words. 


He said it’s Anu’s number only and she gave him the mobile. I didn’t understand why did she gave her mobile to that guy and asked the same. 

He told that he is her lover and asked about my details. 

I introduced myself as her friend and I requested him to make her to talk to me once. Then he started to use all abusive language which I cannot write here. 😦 and warned me to not to call again. 


I was 100% (even more) sure that Anu wouldn’t cheat me and this guy was lying. But I have no way to contact Anu to know what’s happened. 


I thought of going Vizag again to see her and to know the happenings at her home. I booked the ticket to Visakha Express for the next day. 

I packed some clothes and started to the railway station. While I was on the way, Anu called me and told that she wants to forget me and asked me to send her photo and gifts back to her. 


I didn’t believe what I heard. when I asked to repeat, she said “I want to wipe you off from my life. I never met a guy called Nani. I am in love with a handsome guy called Gopi. He is my fiancé. I am going to marry him after my graduation. Is it enough? Then forget me. Bye” and she simply hung up. 


I was confused after hearing these words. if she wants to play a prank or does she really mean it. I tried to call her but she didn’t answer the calls. 

Even after such disheartening conversation, I did not give up the thought of going to Vizag. I headed towards the railway station and boarded the train. 


After sitting in the train I recollected the scenes happened in my office. I had to lie to my manager that one of my close relatives has died and I’d to go out of station. He sanctioned me the leave but my colleagues were able to read my mind. They asked if anything is wrong with Anu. I said no and walked out of office. 

I don’t know whether God had forgotten to fit sensitive hearts to beautiful girls. Where my colleagues can sense the pain I feel, why this girl cannot? 


I went there and when I go to their friend Mohan’s home, he told me that he saw Anu with a new guy and they both were very close to each other. 

I asked about the location where he saw them together. He said it’s Bheemili. I heard once that there are some stealth places in Bheemili where lovers use to go for privacy. 

I felt shocked to learn that she was leaning on his back where he was in the driving seat of Karizma bike. It is true that I felt really bad of being a jackass but I didn’t lose hope. 

I took Mohan’s mobile and tried to call Anu. She answered the call and got surprised to hear my voice on the phone. She said that she was with her fiancé at some restaurant and asked me to hang up. 


I could hear that some guy is talking to Anu in the backdrop and she was laughing loudly at his jokes. I stayed there for two more days and finally I could meet her in the beach.. 

When I meet her, she was in sleeveless top and a kapri. I remember that in the earlier days of our love, she told me that she doesn’t like western wear. But now I am seeing her in the western clad. 

I asked about our relationship and she told that it’s all bulls&*%. I could not control my anger and threw her photo and her gifts at her and asked her to check if everything is returned or not. 

She recklessly took them and thrown into sea. I somehow managed my senses from slapping her and said “see Anu, I don’t know the reason behind your behavior. but one thing is true. It doesn’t matter whether you love me or not. I love you truly and totally. I will remember you forever as it’s my first love. I know it’s the end of my love. I will never show my face to you. At least please don’t break his (new guy) heart.”. 


She smiled carelessly and said “tell me something new man. I got bored of hearing all such nonsense for past 10 months”. I didn’t utter a single word and left the place with broken heart. 


– Nani. 


Nani stopped writing this and closed his eyes. 

His son came from behind and hugged him. Nani smiled and took his son into his lap. Then came his wife with a hot cup of coffee. After giving the cup to Nani, she asked “so, did your story come to an end? Now can I see the complete story?”. 

Nani replied “No, still one more part to go. I am planning to narrate the reason behind the change in Anu’s behavior and her point of view. Probably that would be the end of this story. I will write it over this weekend and show it to you on Monday. Then you can read the complete story”. 


Nani wrote the story over that weekend and shown it to his wife on the immediate Monday. 


It’s the end of story

October 5 th , 2008

This is the worst day of my life. I broke the heart and trust of Nani L .

I heard many incidents about boys who abuse girls when they reject their love and some people even gone mad and killed the girls.

I knew that Nani is not such a psycho. But what did I expect was, at least he hates me and expresses the same feeling on my face. But he burst into tears and left the place without uttering a word.

I curse myself to be rude at him and to break his heart. I know it is the biggest sin I have committed in my life. But I did not have a choice.

When we both were at Rishikonda, I could feel that somebody had been watching us. I felt very uncomfortable being there… and we left the place.

I could realize the consequence only when my uncle Manu reached our home on the next day. When he asked about my studies, I said I was doing good.

Later he asked about my friends. As I didn’t understand his intention behind that question, I took it normal and said they are fine.

Then he said “how is your boyfriend? Is he still in Vizag or left for his place?”. For a moment, I could not believe my ears.

To my surprise, he said he knew everything about our meets including our meet @ Durgam Cheruvu. He said that one of his friends saw me at Rishikonda and the same guy had seen me with Nani in Hyderabad.

He said that his friend had seen us spending together at Durgam Cheruvu.

I learnt from him that his friend was one of the bad boys we encountered at Durgam Cheruvu, I started to beg him not to say this to my parents.

Then he said “do you know how respectable are your parents at your native place? Do you know the consequences of your foolish act? Can you imagine your parents’ situation if you marry a guy who doesn’t belong to our community? Do you expect that someone comes out of this world to marry your younger sister if you marry that guy?”

I didn’t have answer to any of his questions.. I started to weep.

Then again he said “see, you are not a child to slap… you are not adult to explain in words… but one thing is sure. If you marry that boy, your parents would not live anymore. They would commit suicide. Now the choice is yours. Choose only one thing between your love and your parents.”

In that evening, my mother came to me and said that one of my school teachers had met her and praised about me and my attitude.

He saw me for the last time when I was in my 10th class. My mother told that she’s proud of me.

I didn’t know how to respond. I cannot leave Nani but at the same time, I cannot live without my parents.

It all happened because of me… it was me who had grown hopes in Nani. It was me who had met Nani in Hyderabad. It was me who did not think about our socio-religious conditions.

I don’t know whether the words of my uncle are part of emotional blackmail or not… but the only thing I know is, if I do any mistake, my sister Nidhi and my parents have to pay for it.

Finally I decided to sacrifice my love. I don’t think that Nani would listen to my words if tell him with a soft tone. He will even try to meet my parents to convince them for our marriage. If he meets my parents, my uncle will not leave him safe. So, I decided to break his love… and wanted him to hate me.

For that I asked my uncle to act as my boyfriend… he agreed readily because he was happy that Nani would be wiped off my life.

I met my friends and told them to project me bad when Nani meets them. Manu, my uncle and my friend Mohan have done their job.

But it was me who hurt my love the most… I behaved like a bi^#&. I bought a pair of western casuals (I said to Nani that I don’t like western wear so as he) and had worn them when I met him.

He was surprised to see me in western attire but did not pay much attention to that as he had something serious to worry about… it’s our love. When he tried to express his feelings and told how much he loves me, I was moved from the bottom of my heart. But I didn’t show any of the expressions on my face and had spoken with an irritated voice and asked him to say something new. I wonder how my heart became so hard like a rock.

Finally he said his last words and left the place with tears in eyes.

I could not control sorrow anymore when Nani broken into tears… I collapsed in the beach after his departure

I am the most unlucky girl on this earth to miss such a nice guy. I don’t know if I have done the right thing by choosing my parents. But I am very sure that I’ve committed the biggest mistake by breaking Nani’s heart. I will not say that I don’t know that my parents would not agree for our marriage. I knew that they won’t agree… but I thought that I could convince them for our marriage.

Now I am leading a life which is not mine. I am married to a person who never cares about me or my feelings. But I don’t feel bad to be with such person. I deserve this miserable life.

Here I urge all girls not to fall in love if you think you can’t convince your parents for your marriage. Please do not play with peoples’ emotions. All the guys would not be like Nani. There will be some guys who even kill either you or themselves.

–Anu


THE END

PS : This is not my true story nor have I written it. My friend had sent it to me. I just posted it here because I like it.

Appraisal Lessons From Girl Friend(s)…

January 22, 2010

Got this as a fwd..A very nice read.. 🙂

Explain Some real facts with the help of girlfriend example (: D by one of the CTS blogger.)

I  hope it may be of some help to you in your personal life and professional life 🙂

I have copied the content below for your convenience.

Appraisal Lessons From Girl Friend(s)..!

Disclaimer:

The content below is purely out of imagination to get a few smiles across your face.

Any reference to any one reading this is may be just coincidence.

Another appraisal and filling up the document one more time. I was really serious about getting a good feedback this time but I want to know how.

I can only think of my friend who has got a 1st bucket in all his previous appraisal. He told me what people expect from us and how he learnt this things. I really got shocked hearing from where he got his lessons. It’s none other than his girl friend(surprised right?.. even me too). If you have little patience you can learn the following lessons.

Note:
What this post has for you?
• For Guys who have/had Girl friends,  get a good laugh for the lessons you have already learnt.
• Those who are trying to have a girl friend, Be Prepared.
• And for those who can’t get one(like me)..it gives you few more reasons to feel better.

It’s time to move on … and learn some Corporate Lessons from Your Girl Friend(s)

Here’s the conversation between me and my friend

Lesson 1:

Friend: You and your girl friend are returning from a movie in your bike. You have a lot of important assignments. so you tell her that you have some work and drop her somewhere near her place or somewhere where she can catch a bus/auto.
You ask her whether you can drop her at her place.
Her reply will be “It’s OK. You carry on with your work”.
What will you do?
Me : Drop her there and leave???
Friend: Missing it. Never try to do that (unless in the scenario that I tell you later)..Think again
when girl says NO … it means YES(most of the times).
Me :ho.. what does that mean?
Friend : Confusing??? the explanation is beyond the scope of our conversation. Let’s see what should we do instead.
You should say “Its’ ok. I’ll drop you”.
She will decline repeatedly saying “Hey, It’s Fine”(notice that she won’t make an attempt to get down from the bike).
So don’t mess up. Just drop her at her place.
Do you get something from the above??
Me : NO??
Friend : Come on, this is the most important attitude your boss expects from you and we should definitely have this atleast in our appraisal Document/Resume etc..
and it is
“TAKING RESPONSIBILITY”..
You go, communicate and share work from your team mates. Even if you are held up with your work and they too are hesitant to share it with you.

I was bowled first ball..

Lesson 2:

Friend : Consider the scenario in lesson 1 till you ask her whether you can drop her at her place. And she will reply “It’s OK.You carry on with your work. I’ll get a bus/Auto”. This time she says it firmly.(And even gets down from your bike during the conversation)
What will you do?
Me : (casually)will follow what you said in Lesson 1..
Friend: NO NO NO.. Don’t do that. If you do that then you will be accused of anywhere between
*thinking that she is so stupid to catch a bus or auto by herself
to
*Very dominant or * trying to control her
Me:  ????
Friend : complicated Right?
Me: Yes.
Friend : Don’t worry.. you will get used to it
In this scenario when a girl says NO she means NO..You better leave her so that she can go by herself.
Understand something
Me : Though I can sense something I can’t be clear.
Friend: Our lesson is Simple
“ENCOURAGE PEOPLE TO TAKE REPONSIBILITY”.
A good way to get things done.

Lesson 3:

(Are you a guy with a girl friend from some other place? then this is for  you..)

Friend : She comes to you and says her parents(your may be in-laws) are coming here and she needs to book tickets for them. But she is scared to stand in the counter early in the morning. Believe me, you will hear statements like this and she don’t know how she is going to book the tickets. Even the site is not working nowadays J
What will you do ?
Me : Tell her to try the site one more time or encourage her that she can get ticket in the counter??
Friend: If so, then you should be exiled to some unknown planet.
You should instead wake up at 5(or sleep in the station) go to the counter and book her ticket. Remember you should do this by yourself rather than she asking you for help(and she won’t infact).
Me: So does that mean I should go to office by 5 or 6 in the morning?
Friend: Don’t worry, no job is so demanding.
Actually it’s a tip for success..
volunteer to help your boss in preparing that important presentation or helping with some documentation when they are looking ways for doing it..
“TAKING ADDITIONAL RESPONSIBILITIES OTHER THAN YOUR WORK WILL MAKE  PEOPLE NOTICE YOU”.

Note:

Don’t be so stupid to ask your girl friend to book ticket for your parents or your boss to help in your own Presentation.

I started feeling happy that I am learning something though it is confusing.

Lesson 4:

Friend : Have you ever wondered what’s the difference between giving treat to your friend who is a boy and your girlfriend.
Me: Nope.
Friend : Here it is.. When you give treat to a guy you need to take him alone (or your friends if you wish)..
But when you say treat to your girlfriend you end up taking a big gang.(she will say that they are for company since she can’t come alone. If so, then what are you for?)
Ok that’s out of our scope again. Let’s come back to business.
You are taking her and her friends for a treat. You book tickets for a movie and then a lunch at someplace.
Be careful the outcome of this can change your life.

So here’s some possible scenarios and their outcomes.

•The movie is Good and you got a good lunch – Her friends tell her that she is very lucky to have a guy like you( that’s as lucky as getting a first bucket)
•The movie is bad but you managed for a better(heavy) lunch – Her friends tell her that you are okay and you are lucky to get her(Second Bucket hmmm…)
•Both are bad – You end up looking like a joker mocked by her friends often( if your girlfriend is with you for so long). Her friends may even advice her to think twice about you (Worse than a 3 or 4th bucket)
It’s better you arrange for another movie and lunch soon. Of course, after a lot of research.
Got anything??
Me: ????
Friend: We have got the greatest lesson man…

“THE ART OF LEADERSHIP”. Remember A LEADER CAN ONLY BE AS HAPPY AS HIS/HER TEAM…!

Oh.. I am getting enlightened

Lesson 5:

Friend: You both decide to go somewhere for lunch. After a lot of discussion you can’t suggest any place and she suggested some place. You go there and the food is terrible.
What will be your reaction?
Me: Tell her that her choice is bad.
Friend: Gone. She will get upset. Then you end up eating there more often for the sake of consoling her.
So tell her that it’s your own fault as you should have known some good restaurants.
Instead, you go to the place you suggested where everything is good and she orders something. It turns out to be great.
Don’t try to boast that you always make good choice. Just tell her that her choice is always the best(should be..that’s why you are her boyfriend)
Me: I got it. We should take responsibility for failures..
Friend : In that line.To  be precise it is
” BE READY TO TAKE THE BLAME AND SHARE THE FAME..”

I started comparing now, which one is difficult getting a good appraisal or having a girl friend…

Lesson 6:

Friend: Next one is short and simple.
Your girl friend asks you to join for a movie that she is going with her friends
Imagine What will happen even if you are 5 minutes late? I need not explain about the outcome.
It always better waiting rather than to make her wait.
So reach the theatre before her.
Once the movie is over make sure that you always start after she had left with her friends.
And our final lesson is
ALWAYS REACH OFFICE BEFORE YOUR BOSS AND LEAVE AFTER YOUR BOSS

So I hope you had a good time learning these lessons.
Implementing these may help you professionally but i don’t know how much this can help you personally.
All the best for your appraisal…

Now I came out smiling that I found the reason for two things.


How to get a good appraisal
And Why I don’t have a girl friend.

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